Duality 101

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"I understand that for me to be whole, I need to have been to both sides of the scale"

I wrote the quote above in one of my piece and those words have never been more real. If you know me you would know that I've been obsessed with the concept of duality for a few months now and I'm here to make you obsessed too. That is if you let me of course.

But not to complicate things by bringing big concepts, I'll explain using very simple everyday concepts and I hope you understand it at a basic level at least.

A little interaction with an acquaintance one day made me realize that not everyone knows and accepts duality for what it is. We were talking about emotions and I mentioned that a person can feel two or more emotions at the same time and I was given a funny look and they went on to start an argument which lasted for awhile and if you're anything like my acquaintance and you don't believe that you can actually be happy and sad at the same time, come over here let me tell you something that will help you as you navigate through your life.

For you to be one thing, you have to have been the exact opposite of that thing. For you to be happy, you have to have experienced sadness,for you to love, you have to have hated. For you to be accomplished, you have to have failed and the list goes on. It's like a universal law. We're complex in all aspects so don't make the mistake of thinking a person is just one thing. To simplify it further, see yourself as a coin yeah? You have two sides and those two sides are what makes you whole. It's impossible for only one side to exist because both sides need each other to be a perfect coin. You get it now?

Duality or complexity, whichever one you want to call it, can be seen in different aspects of our lives that if you insist you can actually be or experience only one thing at a time in this lifetime, you might need to have your brain checked? No shade or anything like that but you understand abi?

You're a human being right? If you're not it's okay to tell me your secret cause lowkey I'm trying to make alien friends as I've discovered that humans are just too much or even too little to handle. It all really depends on the angle you're looking at it from but that aside for now.

Okay so we've established the fact that you're a human being and because we're all living the same life just with our own unique experiences, I'm sure you must have experienced something similar or along the lines of just living your life and doing something you love doing, maybe something as simple as reading a book. Although I know it's been long you actually picked up a book to read but let's just assume that you actually picked one up for the purpose of this particular message okay?

So you picked up a book to read and usually it's not something people know you for and someone decided to come up to you, unprovoked and say to you "Ahnahn Nne/Nna, so you read books? I thought you loved dancing abi is it even singing?"

If you're a typical Nigerian, I'm sure your first response even if you don't say it out loud would be along the lines of "Ah no o,how can I? I'm just using the book for decoration" and whether they get the sarcasm or not, it's really up to them and none of your business because after all you were reading your book and minding the business that pays you and not going about being surprised at people's hobbies because you realize and understand the concept of a person liking two or more things at the same time.

These examples are just barely brushing the surface of this concept because it's really way deeper than this but let's remember that this is a duality 101 class please and I want my students to really understand the basis of the concept so why not explain things like I would to a child.

Duality applies to romantic relationships too when you talk about compulsory monogamy and polyamory which I'm very much interested in as I'm a lover girl. But I won't touch on that here because that's me reaching and I know some people will come for my head. Not that I mind but let me pretend that I do🌚.

If there's anything you take from reading this, it should be that it is totally normal to desire, feel, love more than one thing or even people (👀) at the same time and people who openly accept their duality absolutely know what they want out of life. In fact I would say that they've cracked the code. At least an aspect of the said code, that is.

That will be all for today. Bye for now and thank you for reading till the end if you did. Subscribe if you'll love to hear from me again 🤭.

Yours,

Ucthestoryteller 🧚